tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4569955034831489569.post2071018582149502006..comments2023-10-25T05:22:34.882-04:00Comments on f8hasit: nothing but time...f8hasithttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09195691823384775191noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4569955034831489569.post-86034336267098305312010-05-19T01:27:41.443-04:002010-05-19T01:27:41.443-04:00Excellent post, as always. Most people who read i...Excellent post, as always. Most people who read it (including myself) think, "Well, this isn't going to happen to me. I'll never get cancer or be in some horrible accident." The thing is, no one ever plans on it. It just hits out of the blue.<br /><br />As far as the anger thing, I'm with you. Getting angry takes a lot of effort, and most situations aren't worth it. I hate confrontation, even if I'm in the right.Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05431248436494081319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4569955034831489569.post-67533954877607821292010-05-14T10:45:17.237-04:002010-05-14T10:45:17.237-04:00As always, a beautifully written, deeply thoughtfu...As always, a beautifully written, deeply thoughtful entry...<br /><br />I cringed at the premise - but there is a reality and one needs to meet it head on.<br /><br />I can only iterate what some of your commenters have already said... if it's your big dream - Do it. Do it NOW. (I've seen those words somewhere)<br /><br />I traveled far more of the planet than many - and on each of my travels - the one thing that always - ALWAYS stood out - was the older couple (or older widow without her lifelong companion) struggling up the stairs to keep up with the tour due to infirmity due to age... and when home, its common to hear someone lament, we saved all our lives for this trip, but so-and-so died before we could go...<br /><br />...and its not just "travel" dreams - this applies to ALL your biggest, boldest dreams... <br /><br />P.s., I'll get my passport renewed - I've always wanted to go to Machu Pichu... :)Intense Guyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08441598926026727682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4569955034831489569.post-53707110175500819382010-05-14T07:03:36.351-04:002010-05-14T07:03:36.351-04:00You handle yourself so well....and sometimes the e...You handle yourself so well....and sometimes the easiest way to react is not react. You could teach us all a few lessons.<br /><br />But shoes mailed in a bag? Odd. LOL.JennyMachttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14594526663480442855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4569955034831489569.post-44856037481288506232010-05-13T10:46:05.240-04:002010-05-13T10:46:05.240-04:00I wonder about this kind of stuff too. I want to ...I wonder about this kind of stuff too. I want to say my will to live is strong, because my will to live while living is pretty damned hefty. But truth be told, my will to live while dying might not be so hot. <br /><br />I hate that about myself, and want to change it the more I see other people living out their last days to the fullest.Lorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11721629115039897949noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4569955034831489569.post-60028503908051499332010-05-13T08:40:05.806-04:002010-05-13T08:40:05.806-04:00My Nan said to make a list of things I'd do if...My Nan said to make a list of things I'd do if I was told I only had a little while to live....and then go do them :) Wise lady my Nan. My mum calls that the "hit by a bus" clause. She reckons that when doing your household budget you apply it so you aren't constantly saving for tomorrow, but spoil yourself a bit today in case you are hit by a bus before tomorrow.CAMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06722605415309678068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4569955034831489569.post-46758657743920403992010-05-12T14:41:53.110-04:002010-05-12T14:41:53.110-04:00BEAUTIFUL. Just like you.
(PS thanks for the sho...BEAUTIFUL. Just like you. <br /><br />(PS thanks for the shout out on here!)<br /><br />xxooChristine Macdonaldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02139820957031345995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4569955034831489569.post-54796844345540100282010-05-11T21:38:50.624-04:002010-05-11T21:38:50.624-04:00I just returned from a fabulous but low-cost trip ...I just returned from a fabulous but low-cost trip driving through the mountains and northern coast of california. I think I'd do something like that for a bit if I were up to it. and then spend my time painting, writing, quilting and loving on my family. and trying to stay positive. I get mad at times, but I refuse to be bitter or carry a grudge. That is no way to live. (and i'm hoping that might protect me just a teensy bit from the dreaded cancer...i know, no guarantees.) I think your get along, go along attitude will get you through a lot!Dreamfarm Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08494214244290730058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4569955034831489569.post-19150775167659296362010-05-10T21:51:07.206-04:002010-05-10T21:51:07.206-04:00Who say's "you should get angry" ? ...Who say's "you should get angry" ? I think that's weird... we shouldn't just GET angry in order to GET respect. How about getting respect by being kind and loving, and treating people as you want to be treated. AND embracing life and the people you've been blessed to share it with- as if you may not have it/them in 6 months. We should live that way, with a sense of urgency, a timer, you really just never know what tomorrow will bring. <br />AND! We also should dress as we please, and not waste our days in flower printed ruffles and frilly red and orange and yellow and green and uuuuhhhhh! I'm so sorry for you.Vivhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14213118495782379374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4569955034831489569.post-59964982988597465822010-05-10T11:58:11.081-04:002010-05-10T11:58:11.081-04:00Yes indeed, you and I are a lot alike. There's...Yes indeed, you and I are a lot alike. There's no point in getting offended at life's little quirks. Simply accept what is, because getting angry about it is not going to make it any better, or affect the outcome at all. <br /><br />I think you would have a very rich, full, loving six months. Which would turn into twelve months, or twenty-four. Live every moment, love every moment.Marvinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10651926840296438477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4569955034831489569.post-81101350973073613442010-05-09T21:03:04.856-04:002010-05-09T21:03:04.856-04:00Bucket list (great movie btw)... should be kept sh...Bucket list (great movie btw)... should be kept short and realistic at all times :)Erichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01008084848942397841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4569955034831489569.post-87457658501419511932010-05-09T18:46:12.876-04:002010-05-09T18:46:12.876-04:00The truth is none of us are guaranteed six more mo...The truth is none of us are guaranteed six more months or even one more day. That beautiful beach you've been saying you'll return to one day may be covered in oil next week. Civil war may break out in the country you meant to visit. If something is important enough that it's on your list to do before you die, do it NOW.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12573262524755768643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4569955034831489569.post-56362611663775173492010-05-09T14:23:51.019-04:002010-05-09T14:23:51.019-04:00Wow, let's not go there. Live long and happy, ...Wow, let's not go there. Live long and happy, Nancy. IndigoIndigo Rothhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03957870121933442627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4569955034831489569.post-32439054378738153022010-05-09T09:08:52.108-04:002010-05-09T09:08:52.108-04:00I was so close to going to Machu Pichu when we liv...I was so close to going to Machu Pichu when we lived in South America. But ended up missing out because I was pregnant. My sister went and she still talks about how magical it was. I think you better send me a cutting of your money tree...Mrs Catchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00451875041973822074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4569955034831489569.post-79431159891888074672010-05-08T23:04:52.929-04:002010-05-08T23:04:52.929-04:00I can't do without the forehead wrinkles...I&#...I can't do without the forehead wrinkles...I'll just take the crap and avoid confrontation as long as I can. When my FIL was diagnosed with lung cancer he was given 2 weeks to 2 months to live. He immediately got all of his business in order which took a couple of weeks and he only lived 2 months. Very sad.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4569955034831489569.post-6206144206161592492010-05-08T21:10:37.381-04:002010-05-08T21:10:37.381-04:00If I had 6 months to live....I would quit work and...If I had 6 months to live....I would quit work and spend as much time as possible with those I love. I would write my daughters and granson each a letter. Probably do a video to my family.gaylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00894920637532415315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4569955034831489569.post-11674243023330274312010-05-08T15:08:50.059-04:002010-05-08T15:08:50.059-04:00The only thing that really makes me angry is peopl...The only thing that really makes me angry is people taking advantage of other people. There's a lot of that going around these days; therefore, I'm always angry.C. Alderetehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05320598427444768427noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4569955034831489569.post-68581294546376199832010-05-08T13:03:17.606-04:002010-05-08T13:03:17.606-04:00@Simply Suthern- And I liked YOUR comment...I too ...@Simply Suthern- And I liked YOUR comment...I too would rather be missed than have people glad I'm gone. That made me chuckle. Thanks!<br /><br />@Julie Buz- I never understood that quote either. Although I suppose it sounds rather high brow or something. Maybe I'm just too much a logical thinker. :-)<br /><br />@Eric - I couldn't agree more. ON the cancer AND how they come up with their timelines. On one hand, being a consumate planner, I'd like to have a timeline to go by. But I think I'd rather be oblivious to any date concerning my end. Thanks, once again, for your comment. :-)<br /><br />@DrSoosie- I most agree. I've had reactions in some situations that have surprised me. I too live in under that protective umbrella, or bubble in my case...that keeps me protected. Mentally at leasst. :-)<br /><br />@Jimmy- It sounds as if you'd be one to punch the shark! Or maybe the doctor? :-)<br />Thanks for your comment! I like to prove people wrong as well.<br /><br />@Renee- That's absolutely horrible about your past co-worker. And you did the honorable thing. I'm not surprised that you would show such grace and composure. But it still hurts, at least a little. You don't deserve that. I'm sure your show was FABULOUS! Just like you. :-)<br /><br />@JenJen- Ahhhh the ol' Aunt Flo. I kindof WANT her to visit. Just so I can READ about it!!! (I'm so bad) Your twitter picture yesterday made me crave a marguarita ALL night. Hope you had fun! :-)<br /><br />Thanks you guys for your comments!<br />:-)<br /><br />Nancyf8hasithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09195691823384775191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4569955034831489569.post-30891353293626747292010-05-08T10:18:44.782-04:002010-05-08T10:18:44.782-04:00You know, Nancy...I get angry about some things, b...You know, Nancy...I get angry about some things, but I usually feel it as hurt feelings. But the situations you described? I can't say for certain I'd let them go or raise hell. I guess it depends if Aunt Flo is planning a visit or not. <br />:)JenJenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13118893759726079685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4569955034831489569.post-72120402388961307222010-05-08T10:13:06.623-04:002010-05-08T10:13:06.623-04:00I tend to get angry and feel hurt, or wronged, but...I tend to get angry and feel hurt, or wronged, but I'm learning what a waste of energy that is, and lately I've tried just letting things go. It's easier said than done, but when it's done, wow do I feel better. <br /><br />Last night was opening night of a show I designed. A former staff member came to see the show (one who left on bad terms) and as soon as she saw me, insulted my work. It was REALLY hard not to let it ruin my night because I knew she was insulting me intentionally and in an effort to hurt me because she was angry about how we parted ways nearly a year ago. But the more I thought about it, the more I realized that her rudeness comes from something inside her that is hurting and lashing out at me is her way of feeling better about herself. I think the old adage is true- you catch more flies with honey. Even if her rudeness hurts me and makes me want to strike back, I've learned that if I just let it go, I haven't engaged and put myself in a position to say or do something to hurt someone else in retaliation. And what good would it have done me to engage her after the insult? I may have even had to endure worse, but by smiling and saying, "Good to see you," and then walking away, I can genuinely look back on that situation and feel good about how I reacted. SO much easier said than done, though. :)Renée T. Habashyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13075751939922027954noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4569955034831489569.post-81514226707781320652010-05-07T21:25:47.431-04:002010-05-07T21:25:47.431-04:00Things that make you say Hmmmmmmm,
It's hard ...Things that make you say Hmmmmmmm,<br /><br />It's hard to say what I would do given that time frame, first I'd have to question the Doc and see where he actually got that number then move on to prove him wrong.<br /><br />We all have our timers running so to say, our life will end right on time the only factor that may change will be determined by what you are doing when the timer runs out, sitting in a chair or running down the street end result will be the same although the manner quite different.<br /><br />Our job is to not worry about the timer running out and to live life in the most productive manner we can, sitting and worrying about when it will end will only cause you to have lost it all when it does end.Jimmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11676883070882757501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4569955034831489569.post-34435237424494321352010-05-07T16:49:16.315-04:002010-05-07T16:49:16.315-04:00I find that when life has seemed to kick me in the...I find that when life has seemed to kick me in the face I have reactions that I would never expect of myself. I think the thing is that no one would really know how or what they would do if handed a death sentence of sorts. It is hard to ponder what your reaction might be because we think we know ourselves so well. And yet, when the unexpected happens (and it always does) we seem to act differently than we ever could imagine. This has happened to me. I have decided I don't want to think about what I would do with only six months left to live. I am grateful I live under a shadow of denial where I think no matter what happens to me I am invincible and safe and protected. It makes getting through the day easier for me. Great thought provoking post!DrSoosiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04445723747109775244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4569955034831489569.post-16042273429659938952010-05-07T15:32:13.667-04:002010-05-07T15:32:13.667-04:00I'm always interested in how they estimate the...I'm always interested in how they estimate the "you've got 6 months". There's just too many stories where it varies hugely either way of that time frame. The psychology for the patient is such a huge factor in not only how the time remaining is lived but also how long that time actually is, that I question the validity of telling a person such a concrete number. What's the purpose? Should it change your attitude towards the illness? Certain types of cancer definitely warrant the person who has it to get their affairs in order, but should it make you change the way you life or what you do?<br /><br />The interaction of body & mind are a huge area in medicine that few dare to investigate as it's a mine field full of highly individual parameters. Scientists hate variety from an analysis perspective as it inhibits acurate prediction, which to me means that a doctor who tells me I've got 6 months to live is probably more often wrong than right...<br /><br />Either way, cancer SUCKS!Erichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01008084848942397841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4569955034831489569.post-61503196426164429542010-05-07T15:18:14.799-04:002010-05-07T15:18:14.799-04:00Ooh! This is a perfect post for a quote that I fou...Ooh! This is a perfect post for a quote that I found in Salman Rushdie's book recently: we all owe death a life. How's that? I like to think about it like that... OWING death a LIFE... <br /><br />And about getting mad, Nancy - it's not worth it. There are too many mad people out there as it is. ;o)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4569955034831489569.post-86352688713190615022010-05-07T13:26:47.307-04:002010-05-07T13:26:47.307-04:00They say here on Earth, "No one gets out aliv...They say here on Earth, "No one gets out alive". So I spose we all have a timer of one sort or the other. <br /><br />I like your statement "That’s the way I am.<br />I’m rather complacent. Or too understanding." I wrote a blog about that. Thats my persomality as well. It bites you in the butt sometimes but in the end you are still nice and understanding. I'd rather be remembered that way than thank goodness he's finally gone.<br /><br />I have thought pretty often about this before. What would I do? I would work. I still have the family to support till that time. Fortunally I love what I do so it aint a bad gig. My timer was made by the cable company. I have between this time and this time. Nothing like being non-commital. LOLSimply Suthernhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13057516546779066925noreply@blogger.com