Friday, October 23, 2009

the things kids say...

My daughter was given an assignment to complete from school.

It's called an 'alpha-biography'.

I know, I know. Don't feel bad, I didn't know what it was either. I don't remember ever having to compose an alpha-biography while in school. But then maybe I did, they just didn't have a haughty-taughty name for it.

But of course, being 10 and knowing everything, my daughter was more than happy to inform me of what an alpha-biography was. How silly of me!

She was assigned the letter "F". The title of her piece is "F is for Friendship". I immediately thought of "C is for Cookie, and cookie is for me" from Sesame Street. Fact is, that damn song is now still running through my head. Just what I need, the entire cast of Sesame Street in my head causing havoc. As if this damn flu wasn't enough.

To complete her assignment she sat down at the computer, pulled up Microsoft Word and started typing. 4 minutes later she said, "I'm done!"

"Done? Already? You just sat down!"

"Nope. Done. Spellchecked and everything.", she answered rather smugly.

So I sat down to proof read her work, perhaps give a few suggestions. Tweak it a little. But I wasn't needed. It was a little window into the world that I will be entering into in the near future. Pretty soon I'm sure that she won't need me at all. My checkbook perhaps, but I should be reveling in her independence.

This is what my daughter wrote in those 4 minutes...


"Friends are like pets. They come and they go all the time. Sometimes they stay your friend for most of your life, sometimes they don't. I once had a friend named Rebeca. She was my best friend when I was in Kindergarten. Now I don't even know where she goes to school. Does she remember that we used to go to school together? Or does she even think of me? I remember that she used to help me with my school work, tell me what the teacher meant, and also was a good friend. I know that some friends may not remember you, but you surely will hold them dear and you will treasure those memories forever.

Friendship is precious. You only can get a good friend a handful of times.Don't waste the good times and forget the bad ones. As Walt Disney once said, "You have to always let go of the past and keep moving forward."


Isn't she genius?

Isn't that fabulous?

I didn't help her, I didn't even know what she was writing. I didn't even help her with punctuation. I know I wasn't that smart when I was ten. Or that insightful. Or talented. Or sensitive.

Oh my.

But this is the same kid that right before school started told me she was "in dire need of a manicure."

Dire.
Need.
Manicure.

Need was probably in my vocabulary base, but manicure wasn't. Dire? I didn't even know the word until the band the 'Dire Straits'.

But she has a very good point. Let go of the bad, hold onto the good. Look forward, not back. Treasure your memories but don't torture yourself with bad ones. Good friends are precious. Forget about the rest.

Damn.
Not much I can say to top that.

I wish I were as smart as my daughter.

I sure am glad that she's around. Out of the mouths of babes we can all learn lessons.
Perhaps she can educate my sorry ass.
Out of the mouths of babes...
:-)




70 comments:

  1. Wow--very impressive writing skills, not just for a 10 year old but for anyone. You've taught her well (I'm sure you provided some writing genes as well). You are so right about this being the beginning of the end of her needing you--when I relocated to NC two years ago, my oldest daughter stayed behind in Florida with her boyfriend (they were just married in April) and I had (and still do occasionally)an absolute breakdown. I'd look through school papers, pictures, videos, old mother's day card...and just sob. It was heartbreaking to realize I put my whole life into creating this perfect human being, only to give her away. I know she's happy and I know that's my job as a mother, but, wow, it sucks. Sorry for rambling there--and, of course, I had a Sesame Street cassette tape that I used to play and sing along with her and it had that C is for Cookie song on it, so, thanks, I'll be singing it all night as well! Also in my last post I likened myself to Cookie Monster(love him)--we're on the same wavelength!

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  2. Kids just "get it" these days. They amaze me. :) My 4 year old son, who is fascinated with Spider-Man (and can't wait until he gets bigger so he can get his webs), said today, "Mom, can't Spider-Man just give me some of his DNA?"

    Really? What?

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  3. Wow...coming from a girl your daughter's age...that's very impressive. Haha..now I got that song stuck in my head. I'm sorry you aren't feeling that well. I hope you get better soon. (:

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  4. I'm not sure how i would deal with my life it was the begining of the end. Both of my daughters are in college now and they have to call me everyday to give me the play by play of what has happened since the last episoide. Every detail, whether i want to hear it or not. Enjoy these moments while you can.

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  5. Impressive! She has your DNA. What did you expect? This little girl is destined for big things!

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  6. I am very impressed! And, I think the teacher made up the alpha-biography. :-)

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  7. Brilliant doesn't begin to cover it, that's something that I'm STILL struggling to accept.

    Way to go Mom, you should take all the credit... hurry quick while you still can!

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  8. awww. the most i learned all day was from a 10 year old. go figure.

    your daughter is one smart cookie.

    kelly
    http://tearinguphouses.blogspot.com

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  9. Very impressive. I have to say this . . . but why are you surprised? Obviously the apple doesn't fall far from the tree!!! Girl your daughter is emanating what you have given her either through genetics or just my merely listening and watching you. Don't be surprised - be proud of yourself - YOU DONE GOOD!!! Keep up the great work ~ the world needs more like you and her around!

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  10. Some great insight from a young girl!

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  11. Wow, I smell a future blogger in the family. You know what they say, "out of the mouths of babes" - sometimes we need the innocence of kids to snap us out of being so cynical. I hope she gets a good grade, she deserves it.

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  12. Don't forget, your daughter has also received some damn fine genes. She's using them well.

    Also...

    "I immediately thought of "C is for Cookie, Cookie is for C" from Sesame Street"

    I thought it was, "C is for Cookie, that's good enough for me." I watched so much Sesame Street, Mr. Rogers' Neighborhood, and reruns of The Love Boat when I was little (I was devoted to the latter), that I'm still surprised that I found other things to watch in later years or even had the time.

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  13. Yes, my famous immediate second post:

    At what age did she start reading? I started reading when I was 2, and my parents were called in by my third grade teacher because he was concerned that I was reading on a level far above my classmates (yes, it's true; I brought in John Grisham novels to read when there was time), but I don't recall ever using "dire" at 10 years old. That's amazing to me.

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  14. Being a mom (or dad) is an amazing experience, often rewarding, sometimes painful; but you have just lived one of the winning moments-to read something wonderful your child has written. Of course, mixed in there is a bit of the pain...beause she didn't need any help from you to create her friendship piece. All mothers know this pleasure/pain dance. Welcome to the leaving the nest process; all baby birds and mama birds go through it. I think it is a bit harder for us human moms.

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  15. I echo what has been said about the quality of the piece - but in 4 minutes? Wow, it reads as if it's been tweeked over a period of days until a final draft has emerged. Your daughter has a wonderful gift for writing and insight, and I believe both skills will have been nurtured by you being a Mum.

    I never had kids so I can only try to understand how it must have felt at that moment, so proud yet so sad, to realise your daughter is growing up. Take heart she seems well prepared to take on that big world out there.

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  16. Love her assignment writing...Kids never cease to amaze us

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  17. They never cease to amaze do they? You should be proud, and thanks for sharing this with all of us.

    My daughter is 8 and I admire that she is a planner. She told me the other day with a straight face and as serious as can be, "Dad,we are going to Las Vegas for my 21st birthday. Are you in?" I've never been more in for anything in my entire life.

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  18. Kids... We are in dire need of them, aren´t we. :)

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  19. Such a brilliant reminder of how we adults totally over-think things.
    I have to confess I too am in dire need of a maincure!

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  20. Wow your daughter is so smart! Congrats on raising such a wonderful person!

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  21. Bright and insightful. She is an old soul and you have her for a reason. My son is like that. They are simply tuned in and get it. What a journey to watch them grow up. Now the manicure part is my daughter, but she is a math, science linear thinker. Those words would never come out of her head! Abercrombie, coach, yup...outta her mouth...lol. That part is her mom!

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  22. Your daughter sounds amazing. She must have inherited her writing skills from you!


    cyndi124.blogspot.com

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  23. I've known my daughter was smarter than me for some time... I'm hoping she doesn't know though ;-).
    Kids are just cool... but only when given the right care, guidance, and love. When you look at your daughter with amazement, feel free to keep some of that for yourself. It's well deserved.
    Hope the Tamiflu has done it's thing and you're on the mend.
    And what's happening with Patrick?

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  24. Very impressive, you should be proud!She sounds so bright and mature and thoughtful. And she gets straight to the point, doesn't mess around with fluff.
    When I read "alpha-biography", I didn't know what it meant either and I thought, "Is this another one of those new-age, self-esteem, assertiveness, no-one-is-a-loser exercises?" But I was wrong.
    I loved reading this! Thank you! - G

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  25. Good essay. In fact GREAT!

    C is for cookie. That's good enough for me.

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  26. Indeed children these days are more advanced that we were at their age. (I'm sure our parents thought the same thing about us) I hope she continues to inspire and amaze you. I agree with Bonnie, you deserve some credit for nurturing her a long the way.

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  27. So proud of you for raising a daughter that I'm even proud of and I don't know her one stinking bit.
    My daughter wrote this (she's 8):
    "When there's writing, there's always a way"

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  28. Well, they say that each generation is a little smarter and farther along than the previous one. Your little one is obviously a Word Person and probably reads profusely. That's where I learned my words, some of them just sit there waiting for me to use them. Good story, and good job, Mom!

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  29. Wow your daughter did a great job!! What grade is she in? I work in education and have to help the little ones with stories all the time and I must say she did an awesome job!!! Tell her to keep up the good work!!!

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  30. kids are awesome. know more than adults ever will (^.~)

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  31. Your daughter writes better than quite a few grown-up bloggers!

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  32. Let me know if she starts blogging. I have a feeling that, just like her mother, she'd be a good read. :)

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  33. Love it Nancy. What a gem. And yes, let us know when she starts blogging.

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  34. Hi there...I've been following since you became famous with BoN. I've enjoyed reading you very much, but didn't feel the need to comment until today...I loved reading what your daughter wrote! I have a nine-year-old son, and I'm constantly surprised by how much of a *person* he is now. We really need to treasure these last few years while they are still ours, don't we? :)

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  35. Sounds like you are going to have your hands full! I chuckled at the Dire Straits comment because I think that is my first time too. Seriously though ~ she sounds like an amazing girl that was raised by a very smart mama. Thanks for the cookie song ~ the Cookie Monster is now dancing through my mind.

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  36. Apples don't fall far from the tree.
    I love your stories...the fact that the cookie song is now stuck in my head...not so much!
    Sunny :)

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  37. She is your offspring, so congratulations!

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  38. Nice piece of assignments there by your daughter. And not forgetting a nice post from the mother. =)

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  39. I have a 10 year-old grandaughter and the kids these days are amazing. When you write, less is more.

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  40. Hey Nancy!

    I've never come across an "alpha-biography", though my first thought was "another NEW old thing that I'll need a kid to explain to me", like acrostic poems or split digraphs.

    Your daughter's work is amazing! Hats off to you both.

    Indigo (who has just dropped you a mail)

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  41. No surprise that our beautiful, talented girl knocked this out quicker than it takes me to turn my computer on.

    Glad I have no idea how that cookie song goes.

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  42. That's some amazing stuff! She sounds like a wise old soul in a 10 year old body. But, she definitely got some of her writing talent from momma!

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  43. How insightful! I may just print that one out for future reference.

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  44. What's that saying..."The apple doesn't fall far from the tree." You got a smart, sweet little girl there.

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  45. "Dire Need".
    I had to laugh at my son when he told me last week that, 'Mum, you know I've had this sore throat for an absolute age!'.
    At least I know the English teacher at school is earning her wage...

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  46. You are a very lucky lady to have such an intelligent and thoughtful daughter. Wow! It's funny to hear what comes out of kids mouths. She does have a good vocabulary.

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  47. How awesome! I'm sure she takes after her mom! Kids nowadays act a lot older than we did at theat age. I think they grow up too fast, but they can be pretty smart! Looks like we have a future blogger or novelist in the house!

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  48. She even quoted an authority. I'm impressed.

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  49. That's awesome, Nancy! Couldn't have said it better myself!

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  50. Dang. Can I get her to ghost blog for me?? :)

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  51. That's a pretty awesome girl you have there. Makes me wonder what the hell I was doing at that age because I sure don't remember thinking like that :)

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  52. You are gonna have tough times keeping up with a child as smart as that. Wise for her age. And I'm blogging about anatomically correct eggplants. Shame on me!

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  53. Nancy, that child has it all together, and believe it or not, it has more to do with you than you give yourself credit for.

    I want to be just like her when I grow up!

    Feel better!

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  54. I wish we were all as smart as your daughter. She is wise beyond her years if you ask me.

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  55. definitely a genius! everything she said about friendship is true and something we should always remember!

    leethroughthelens.blogspot.com

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  56. I'm seriously in tears. All day, I've been struggling with memories of people I have lost. Two in particular. One- my grandma whom I was very close to who died just over ten years ago. I saw this older woman yesterday who was walking like she used to and it brought up some memories (good and bad). And the other-- of my ex. We've been apart for a year and a half now, but a song came onto the radio today that reminded me of our relationship and it was a very toxic relationship, yet I loved my ex with everything that I had. I'm still struggling with letting go of both of those two individuals, both of whom had tremendous impacts on my life for two very different reasons. And reading what your daughter wrote, put a whole new perspective on things. It was just what I needed to hear. I don't know what provoked me to get on here tonight, but whoever prompted my subconscious to do so, certainly impacted my night. THANK YOU for sharing your daughter's work. Very impressive for a ten year old. If only I had been that wise at her age. Let go of the bad, hold on to the good...forget about the rest. Thanks Nancy. As I said previously, this was exactly what I needed to hear tonight.

    KW

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  57. Also, if you ever get a chance, check out my blog sometime. It's not fancy writing- but it is unique in that I write straight from the heart. It is all emotions and thoughts and things that I have experienced and it's a work in progress. I need to continue with the story I'm writing, but will soon-- probably this week sometime. It's http://poolofthoughts.blogspot.com
    It's all based on true facts from my life. Thanks again Nancy for what you shared. It made my night!

    KW

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  58. First of all I think you can some of the credit. You'd be amazed how much good stuff a child can pick up from a good parent.

    The fact that she can sit down and write something like that without you watching over her shoulder shows that you are the kind of parent that shows her child the way, and does not do everything for them...

    I have the great pleasure of having parents like that, helping me when I needed it but giving me the space to do as I wanted in both success and failure.

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  59. That girl is one smart little cookie. If she's already this insightful at such a young age, she'll go very far in life.

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  60. Honey, you don't give yourself enough credit...remember your daughter is 1/2 you...or if you are lucky...3/4 you and only 1/4 her father. ;)

    Our children are reflections of ourselves....the lessons we've taught them, the love we've given them.

    Your daughter is who she is, because of who YOU are....and the example you've set for her.

    you write...and she can WRITE a school assignment in 4 minutes with a better vocabulary than a 30 year old. You've survived a divorce...and she knows the value of "moving forward"...and letting the bad stuff rest like dust on an old bookshelf.

    Enjoy the good, let go of the bad...she's ten...she learned that from you m'dear.

    just my opinion!

    ~hl~

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  61. Some impressive writing there from the little one. She obviously takes after you in that respect. I can imagine you install in her a sense of how great it is to write, a wonderful thing in this age. And forward thinking as well. She becomes a great writer, sell millions of novels, and you get looked after for the rest of your life.

    Like it!

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  62. Wow, she has quite a good head on her shoulders! I loved her perspective. She kept it simple and full of honesty. Funny how reading this through the mind of a youngster made me realize how we 'grown ups' (not sure if some adults should qualify as grown ups) make things more complicated than they need to be!

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  63. Genius indeed! What a star! Very impressive.

    .......as for you, lady - now I have that tune in my head too!!!!!!!

    x

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  64. The apple does not fall far, mulady. Thank you for posting this beautiful illustration of her heart. This is a true testament to your obvious adoring motherhood.

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  65. You're daughter is very insightful. And not just for a 10 year old. I know a lot of adults that don't have that much insight! I read her post to my mom. She was telling me about writing a card to her SIL who made things so much easier for her when my brother and I were little. She thought she should know how much that meant to her, even though it was 30+ years ago. Then my aunt went into the hospital. She's out now. But when my cousin called to tell my mom, he told her how much that card meant to his mom. And she just told me that story. The day after I read your daughter's post. So I had to share it with her. Thank your daughter for reminding us to be thankful for the friends we have.

    Mich

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  68. Wow...coming from a girl your daughter's age...that's very impressive. Haha..now I got that song stuck in my head. I'm sorry you aren't feeling that well. I hope you get better soon.
    Work From Home

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  69. WOAH!!!! Your daughter is TEN and she wrote THAT?? That's incredible. I sure as hell couldn't have come up with something like that when I was ten. You daughter definitely has a gift when it comes to writing... just like her mother. :)

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